It seems heartless and gutless to me but a survey out in the UK today says one in seven people have had their relationship end via text, email or instant messaging. While hiding behind such digital technology might appear a cowardly way of splitting up, it contrasts with the four percent who simply drop all communication with their lovers without notice, a Reuters report on the study stated.
The study also said that one percent of the people surveyed would use a social networking site such as FaceBook to dump a partner.
Moneysupermarket.com conducted the survey and said 15% of the 2,194 people questioned had been dumped by text or email, although a quarter of those in the most tech-savvy 18 to 24-year-old age group would have written the more traditional Dear John or Jane letter.
Perhaps it's no surprise that most folks would like to avoid that most-uncomfortable of confrontations but it still seems lame to me. But maybe that's because texting has just become so easy. A recent LetsTalk.com survey found 49% of U.S. teenagers now listed text messaging as the most important feature of a cell phone. The CTIA-The Wireless Association said that 12.5 billion text messages were sent in June this year, up 72% from a year ago.Other published reports have found the digital breakup trend growing. For example, a survey carried out by Sicap found that 9% of mobile phone users admitted to having dumped a boyfriend or girlfriend by sending a text message. A survey last October by Macquarie University in Australia found 100 people aged 18 to 35 used text messaging more when relationships began or were in a rocky patch.
There's an interesting item on Huffingtonpost.com on how to handle such digital breakups. The woman writing the post says among other things: "I am offering you the advice I gave myself. Although you may, rightfully so, be upset about the news and the method in which it was delivered - you have to deal with the truth and move on. And make a commitment to be in integrity with regards to your own communication. The next time you find yourself tempted to avoid an interaction via technology, pick up the phone or set a meeting."
Fine words of advice if you ask me.