"Should I accept it?"

The young IT executive posing the question had been recruited aggressively by one of his company's archrivals. He'd quietly gone on a first interview, then a second, then a third. In due time he'd received (and accepted) an extremely attractive job offer. So he cheerily returned to his current employer to hand in a cordial letter of resignation.

But to his surprise, his boss read it, then grew flustered and begged him to postpone his final decision for a day or two. Within mere hours the executive was presented with an even more attractive counteroffer. "We simply can't afford to lose you," his boss explained, patting his shoulder.

Who knew? And more importantly - what to do now?

Before I answer the question (and before anyone starts wishing you had such "problems"), let me mention that because of marketplace demands, highly qualified IT managers and executives are more likely to face this particular rose garden.

But therein lie several thorns. Granted, there are many good and legitimate reasons to leave a position for greener pastures. Perhaps someone has just finished implementing a major ERP system and is now in maintenance mode, with no fresh challenges on the horizon. Or perhaps a training budget has been slashed to bits - a kiss of death to any IT worker intent on upgrading his or her skills. Or perhaps a newly hired network engineer just learned the $15,000 bonus on which he was counting isn't likely to materialize. Bummer.

So he starts shopping for new positions. He finds what he thinks is a terrific fit. He informs his boss, "Hey, it's been fun," but he's moving on - and then he's stunned to hear, "Tell me what's wrong here, and I'll fix it. But you have to promise to stay. And by the way, here's more money."

I'm not saying the executive shouldn't accept a great counteroffer - but that won't rectify all problems. Think about your reasons for wanting to leave in the first place. Let's review the situation and consider the following worst-case scenarios that might play out if you decide to stay with your employer.

You'll change the culture of your company

A resignation is the business equivalent of holding your boss at gunpoint: "Give me what I want, or I'm history." The counteroffer is the equivalent of your boss handing over cash, a promotion, less travel or more time off, and putting your gun back into its holster.