I just received the following feedback from a reader regarding this week's Backspin, What My Parents Don't Know. It should be a warning for every parent about the risks of unfettered Internet access:

Mine wound up dropping her grades, getting depressed almost to the point of suicide & posting pictures of herself. Yeah, both of us should know better. I'm a network administrator & she's been told a ton of stories about what happens to kids in chat rooms, but she got that bad anyway a few years ago. She was 14.

Teenage girls are moody enough, but the loss of her dog coupled with problems at school masked some of the cause. I finally bought a clue & invaded her privacy - found her email accounts & monitored them, logged her chat sessions, etc... It took 5 minutes of reading before I unplugged her Internet connection, leaving the PC since it is required for school work. Her attitude & grades improved. I reinstated the Internet connection a month later & all went back down again. We repeated this cycle a couple more times before I just pulled her PC completely. She had to work on my PC when I wasn't using it & knew I was monitoring her closely. The problem stopped.

Friends & coworkers couldn't believe I took away her PC, her birthday present, after 8 months. I'm still kicking myself that it took me so long & that I let things progress so far when such a simple solution was available. There's a lot of pressure not to be the bad guy, enable your children & all of that. But too much power corrupts & she proved she just wasn't up to the responsibility of an Internet connection, unlike her 2 older brothers. They weren't saints, but they didn't use it to self destruct.

I hope you make this story available to other parents. It was a hard one for me & I'm sure a lot of others could benefit by the example - it was a scary one.