Socializing safely via the Internet

The long view of security strategies for your network.

In my last column, I exhorted readers to contribute to integrating cyberspace into our young people's moral universe by getting out into their communities and speaking about Internet safety and other matters of interest.

Today's column consists of the notes I distributed at the first of four public discussions on such topics at the Brown Public Library in Northfield, Vt.,. In no sense should anyone think of these as comprehensive; they were just talking points that I thought would interest participants for an hour-long discussion. I hope that readers will find them useful enough to share with their families and especially as a basis for discussion with young people.

1. Parents, think carefully about how early you should allow your children to have unsupervised access to the Internet. Putting the family computer in the living room until kids are in their early teens can make a lot of sense to keep children from become involved with content and people you would disapprove of without giving you a chance to talk to them about your values.

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In my last column, I exhorted readers to contribute to integrating cyberspace into our young people's moral universe by getting out into their communities and speaking about Internet safety and other matters of interest.

Today's column consists of the notes I distributed at the first of four public discussions on such topics at the Brown Public Library in Northfield, Vt.,. In no sense should anyone think of these as comprehensive; they were just talking points that I thought would interest participants for an hour-long discussion. I hope that readers will find them useful enough to share with their families and especially as a basis for discussion with young people.

1. Parents, think carefully about how early you should allow your children to have unsupervised access to the Internet. Putting the family computer in the living room until kids are in their early teens can make a lot of sense to keep children from become involved with content and people you would disapprove of without giving you a chance to talk to them about your values.

2. Think you are anonymous because you use a smart handle like "CleverStudentinVermont?" Think again. You may not sign your name to what you post, but with enough effort by investigators, you can usually be tracked down through the details of your Internet connections.

3. Anything you post or write online may be permanently available to anyone, anytime: so think before you post. Ask yourself the following questions before hitting SEND – and if you answer YES to any of the following, don't post!

4. Would you be ashamed to have your message / photograph / comment publicized in your hometown newspaper?

5. Would you be unhappy about having your employer / family / spouse / children / parents reading / looking at what you posted?

6. Are you posting evidence of a illegal activities (e.g., under-age drinking, assault, vandalism)?

7. If you are a young person younger than 18 years of age, try to imagine that your concepts of privacy may change as you get older.

8. If you are younger than 18 years old, sending cute pictures to your friends via cell phone is OK, but that doesn't mean it's a good idea to send pictures of yourself stark naked – that's called sexting and it is classified as child pornography. Making, storing and transmitting child pornography are all federal felonies – crimes with serious jail time.

9. Online dating has its risks: how do you know that the attractive person on the other end of the instant-messaging session or e-mail link is who (s)he says (s)he is? Or what gender, age, financial situation, and criminal record really apply to "Bobbi?"

10. Never arrange to meet someone in private and alone whom you've known only through the Internet. Always meet in a public place and make sure they know you will bring along a friend and that you are telling other people where you are going and whom you are meeting.

11. Parents and children must be on guard against abuse by pedophiles, who have referred to the Internet as a shopping center for their perversion. Some classic signs of child entrapment by pedophiles:

M. E. Kabay, PhD, CISSP-ISSMP, specializes in security and operations management consulting services and teaching. He is Chief Technical Officer of Adaptive Cyber Security Instruments, Inc. and Associate Professor of Information Assurance in the School of Business and Management at Norwich University. Visit his Web site for white papers and course materials.